The Art of Attention: Nurturing Self-Love Through Intentional Self-Care

Hello again beautiful soul!

Last week, we embarked on our journey of self-love with the pillar of Awareness. This week, we delve deeper into the second pillar of our self-love series: Attention. Attention in self-love is about much more than the activities we choose for self-care; it’s about the mindset and intention behind these acts.

Self-Care: More Than Just Activities

When we think of self-care, we often think of activities like going for a manicure or grabbing drinks after work. While these can be acts of self-care, what truly transforms them into acts of self-love is the mindset and intention we bring. It’s about recognizing and honoring the specific need we are addressing.

Mindset and Intention in Self-Care

Imagine you’re going out for a night with friends but are burdened with guilt or worry – perhaps feeling like you’re neglecting family duties or work responsibilities. In these moments, even a well-intentioned activity can lose its nurturing quality. True self-care requires us to be fully present and caring in the act, releasing guilt and embracing the experience as a deserving and necessary part of our well-being.

Reflecting on the Attention We Seek

An insightful reflection in the realm of self-care is to consider the attention we often seek from others. More often than not, this external attention we crave is a mirror reflecting the attention we need from ourselves. It’s a powerful reminder to turn inwards and provide ourselves with the care and presence we seek, because we deserve it.

The Essence of Caring in Self-Care

The core of self-care lies in ‘caring’ – genuinely tending to our needs with compassion and understanding. It’s about asking ourselves, “What do I need right now?” and then fulfilling that need with a positive, guilt-free mindset. This could mean choosing rest over socializing if that’s what your body and mind are asking for, or vice versa.

Practical Steps to Cultivate Intentional Self-Care:

  1. Mindful Self-Care: Before engaging in a self-care activity, take a moment to reflect on your intention. Ask yourself, “Is this what I truly need right now? How can I make this experience more nurturing?”
  1. Check-in with Your Emotions: Be aware of any feelings of guilt or obligation. Remind yourself that taking care of your needs is not only okay, it’s essential.
  1. Personalized Self-Care Routine: Develop a self-care routine that resonates with you personally. It could be anything from a quiet evening reading to an energetic dance class, as long as it fulfills your current emotional and physical needs.
  1. Experiment and Adjust: Be open to experimenting with different forms of self-care. Notice how you feel during and after each activity. It’s okay if what you need changes; it’s all part of the journey of understanding yourself.

As we continue to explore and implement these pillars, remember that self-care is deeply personal and varies from one individual to another. It’s a personal journey of understanding and honoring your unique needs. Next week, we’ll explore the third pillar of Compassion, where we learn the art of self-acceptance and kindness.



I believe in the transformative power of coaching because I’ve experienced it firsthand. From a young age, I held a deep desire to make a positive impact on the world, however, I was uncertain about how to bring that vision to life. Growing up I battled with certain difficulties, deep depression, self-injury and even went through a stage of suicidal attempts. I recognized that my current state of being, my thoughts, and my actions were not aligning with my aspirations. That feeling of not aligning with my true self threw me deeper until one day I had enough of being victim to my stories. Through therapy and diving into self-help books, I discovered the power of reframing thoughts, cultivating gratitude, and setting meaningful goals, which shifted my mindset. Today, I am a living testament to the transformative journey of healing, inspiring others to find their purpose, embrace their story, and creating change to lead a more intentional life.

After years of hard work, dedication, and continuous personal development, I embarked on becoming a certified life and NLP coach. With purpose and compassion, I help guide and support others in their journey of self-discovery and growth.
In my practice, I go beyond conventional coaching approaches. I have run and presented at numerous workshops and circles on growth mindsets, mindfulness, and various coaching skills. Through my unique methodology, I “blend heart and business” creatively, striking a practical and comfortable balance for my clients.

When I’m not coaching, I indulge in other activities that fuel my soul. I love writing, journaling, and blogging as well as learning, so you’ll often find me reading or listening to a good book via Audible. In addition, I greatly enjoy nature, which allows me to connect with myself and the deeper rhythms of life. At other times, I find solace in dancing, using movement as a form of self-expression and release; and listening to podcasts to further expand my knowledge and gain fresh perspectives.

One quote that I lived by as a teen and continues to guide my approach to life is, “Love life, and life will love you.” This simple yet powerful statement embodies the change that my mindset shift had on my life; it highlights the importance of perspective. By cultivating a positive outlook and embracing life’s beauty, we can invite love and abundance into our journey.

I am genuinely dedicated to supporting individuals like you in discovering your inner strength, overcoming obstacles, and unlocking your true potential. Together, we can embark on a transformative journey towards a more fulfilling and purposeful life.